Over the past several years, clients have asked me how to recognize the "right" relationship and how to maintain a healthy relationship. A few observations; the "right" person / relationship is someone who inspires you. You share common core values. You feel better about yourself when with that person and they inspire you to want to be an even better person. A healthy relationship is one where two independent people make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves. It's important to realize that regardless of how much you care for each other, you cannot read your partner's mind. Talk to each other. Express what you feel and what you want. Be realistic about what you expect of and from your partner. The majority of conflicts in relationships are the result of either failing to meet unspoken expectations (you didn't know), and / or holding unrealistic expectations of your partner ( they can't possibly do it). A healthy relationship is not giving 50/50, rather it's giving 100/100. If you will make your partner's happiness and emotional security your goal, you will have a rich and strong relationship. Ancient Masters and Mystics taught that if you help someone row their boat across the river, you make it across the river as well. What you send out returns to you. This is not co-dependency it is healthy inter-dependency. A final note; the simple things are powerfully important. A touch, a smile, a kind word serves to improve, preserve and protect our relationships.
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